Ice skating help?

ok i really dont enjoy ice skating srry b/c my coach always makes me feel bad and i start 2 cry on the ice i tell my rents i dont want 2 continue but they just wont listen wat do i do

Ice skating help?
Do you know why you don't enjoy skating?





Maybe is it that your coach ruins it all for you? Maybe it is knowing that you're going to be skating with a coach who doesn't fit your personality that makes you not look forward to it, nor enjoy it. I have had coaches that I didn't like and was pretty much afraid of and I have heard other skaters say that they don't like their coach, which puts a major damper on their lessons.





Do you just not like skating all together and want to pursue something else? I have also seen skaters -- and not saying this is your situation -- who their parents want them to skate more than they do. The parents try to live vicariously through their child because they never skated as a kid and some, not all, think their kid is going to be the next Olympic champion if they sink enough money into it. The kid doesn't want to skate and no matter if they have God-given natural talent or not, they never seem to improve because they have no desire to skate. They'd rather play soccer or something else!





It is also very hard to be a coach to someone who clearly does not want to skate. Not making excuses for your coach because I do know some that have a hard time deciding which methods work best for each skater. I had a girl in a skating class who passed through the beginning levels just fine. Then when it got a little harder, it seemed like she gave up and actually started regressing! I know when I initially worked on crossovers with her, she could do them, otherwise I wouldn't have passed her. Then when I got her again a few levels up, she could hardly do crossovers anymore and I think she enjoyed the fact that I spent the whole lesson doing nothing but working on crossovers with her because it got her attention. And if she had other skaters in her class, she would intentionally slow the whole class down by poking a long and pretending she couldn't do things. Her mom didn't pick up on the fact that the kid obvioulsy was not interested and would rather play mind games than improve. She hasn't been back for lessons recently, but I think mom got a clue when her daughter was stuck in the same basic class for months and it didn't seem to bother the kid one bit.





First, I would identify the specific reason why you don't like skating. Is it only that you don't like your coach? Change coaches and try it out for awhile and your feelings may change. A new coach with a new attitude and a new perspective may change your feelings of dread to something more positive. Talk to other skaters at the rink and see who they think is a fun coach. Or is it that you have no interest in skating and would rather be involved in a sport or activity that you have a passion for?





Once you decide what it is about skating that you really don't like, plan out what you want to say to your parents. If you decide that your coach is the problem, talk to the other skaters at the rink, figure out which coach you'd like to try, see how much they charge, which rinks they coach at -- all the important details, then present it to your parents.





"I'd like to talk to you guys about my skating. Right now, I'm really not enjoying skating because my current coach makes me feel bad about it and I feel like that's holding me back and hurting my confidence. Could I try skating wth a different coach, maybe one who I click with better? I checked at the rink to get some information about a coach I think I would do better with to get my skating going in a more positive direction. I know skating takes a lot of time, money and effort (yours and mine), so I don't want to waste it skating with a coach who makes me feel bad about myself and my skating, to the point that I want to quit."





If you decide that it's just plain old skating you don't like, present it the same way to your parents. Research something you'd rather spend your time doing, get as much info as you can on it and present it to them.





I hope skating becomes more positive for you, but if you decide to quit, good luck in whatever you choose to do. :)
Reply:Just dont do what he tells you, he will get fed up with teaching you and want out of coaching. Then tell your parents you hate it and would rather do something else
Reply:If you coach is ALWAYS tearing you down, and is lacking in the encouragement area, maybe you need a new coach. Coaches are supposed to push us skaters to our best, but negativity all the time is not healthy nor any fun at all!





Good luck, and sorry about your parents...they don't sound very helpful at all. But you may need to force them to talk to your coach.





I suggest you sit down with them in a mature fashion, no tears, screaming, or whining/complaining, and explain to them the situation. I am sure they will understand after a while.
Reply:Have you communicated calmly (not crying) to your parents how much you dislike ice skating? That's about all you can do. Try this and I can almost guarantee you will see different results. Go to your lessons and don't cry. Ice skate the best you can but don't get frustrated. Concentrate on the clock and watching time go by and just remind yourself that the lesson will be over soon. Even if your coach yell and says mean things, don't react. Just stay calm. Think of someone calm you know, whether it's a real person or an actor or a super hero and be just like them. When you get home, ask your parents nicely if you can talk to them for a moment. Tell them simply, without any tears, that you dislike ice skating and you request they end the lessons. Even if they say no, just say ok. Repeat these exact same steps for about 2 or 3 more lessons. If you are calm and do not over react and you continue talking to your parents after each lesson and saying the same thing, they will finally get it and they will let you end the lessons. You must do all this without crying and getting frustrated. Trust me. It will work. Good luck!
Reply:You have to decide whether you enjoying ice skating enough to carry on. Find out what it is that makes you coach make you feel bad, and try and fix it, i.e, if he shouts at you a lot, find out why and work on it.





Good luck x
Reply:Don't feel bad. It is his job to inspire, and that might be his method. Just continue doing it, and without improvements, I think your parents will stop asking you to skate. :D



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